MarriedPriests.com: Thank you, Father. Unfortunately, for the Latin Rite, marriage and the contemplative life can be see to be in opposition in practice. So Father needs to address how even married people can be contemplative in the article. The Catechism Pillar IV says that it can be done, but even when you look at the Church's liturgical calendar, most of the saints held up as heroes are not married contemplative. Opus Dei is a beautiful movement in the Church taking holiness to the ordinary day to day, so don't misunderstand this. So yes unfortunately the perception is that it is monks and nuns that are contemplative instead of married laity who only have unmarried saints to look up to on the liturgical calendar.
S.R.: Married Priests Carmelite spirituality has helped me immensely in this regard. It can be applied in any state of life as can many other charisms.
S.R.: Married Priests St Francis De Sales wrote ‘Introduction to the Devout Life’ for the laity in 1608. I’m sure there have been many lay people who were contemplatives throughout history. There have been third orders for the laity since the 13th Century. The Letters of St Zelie Martin and St Lois Martin show a marriage that was grounded on prayer. The Letters of Elizabeth Lesseur are also another example of a lay contemplative.
MarriedPriests.com: Sa Rah thank you for trying. St. Francis de Sales was good friends with St. Frances Jane de Chantal and, you're right, the "Introduction to the Devout Life" was meant for laity which in the 17th Century was a good effort. But perhaps Sts. Louis and Zelie and St. Elizabeth Lesseur are the best foot forward for now, even though few people know their optional memorial feasts fall on July 12 and May 3, respectively. Still, you've proven the point that the lament remains that married saints are merely "optional memorial feasts" on the Church's liturgical calendar compared to other contemplative/Religious saints on the calendar -- even disproportionately -- and need more attention. In other words, the Church needs more married saints on the liturgical calendar, and not just optional memorial feasts. The Prelate of Opus Dei needs to strengthen his noble position of everyone being called to be contemplatives by explaining how this can be done for, say, a homeschooling mother of many kids with a noisy household. God bless.

Source:
https://catholicweekly.com.au/everyone-can-be-a-contemplative/?fbclid=IwY2xjawVKdm9leHRuA2FlbQIxMQBwZG9mBHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDzQwOTk2MjYyMzA4NTYwOQABHqHgIOiBD96nnATdxJm0V2to8r-A70gEClYGl0JxyiP9SdBomxVg6Gy3a2Ef_aem_1WeImni7xIFlI8snEKWj8g
What I can't understand is that Cardinal Laghi in the 1998 RATIO FUNDAMENTALIS INSTITUTIONIS
DIACONORUM PERMANENTIUM speaks of married deacons 'welcoming' children....
How?